In The Case of a "Confident Introvert"

Popular Opinion: Introverts lack confidence

Unpopular Opinion: Introverts actually have confidence

We all usually have this subconscious tick in our head that says, "Introverts? The one with no confidence?” It's pretty normalized to have this mindset with the misconception since introverts are name tagged as "Zero Confidence" people.

Initially, my idea for this blog was just about confidence, but I thought – since I'm an introvert myself – why not mix 'em up a bit. And so, I'm going to tell you that I'm what you call a "Confident Introvert".

It's quite a funny oxymoron when you think about it. But I'd like to break that train of thought of "Introverts don't have self-esteem and confidence".

Over the past few blogs and time I spent in this module, I realized that many of my initial responses delved (quite negative) into my past experiences as someone who hasn't mustered up confidence and the inevitable lack of self-esteem. But, I recognized, though I'm an introvert, I'm actually pretty confident now.

Though I do like to keep thoughts to myself to ponder on in many cases, and my social skills aren't 100% guaranteed, the contradiction is that I get incredibly confident when I'm in the zone.

I'm sure I'm not the only one.

In college, there were many instances where I got to shine, where my confidence built itself even when I'm an INFJ-T. Like when I successfully presented my first presentation or actively tested my creative skills on my assignments like this one. And so, yes, I'm an introvert, but I'm also confident. I'm shy, but it doesn't bring me to a point where I'd say, "I'M DEFINITELY NOT GONNA SPEAK."

The question that's probably bothering you is… "So isn't that being an Ambivert??"

Yes. It does, but I lean more into introversion.

It's complicated to clear the mainstream thought of "introversion is zero confidence". Sometimes it's really true that being an introvert carries a negative personality trait like overthinking. However, in many instances, introverts like myself can display a fantastic deal of confidence too when given a chance.

Writing what I feel and learned through this module really built up a certain level of change within my personality and outlook of life. There’s a lot more clarification on what I can do to level up and gain confidence.

And after watching Amy Cuddy’s Ted talk with the class on how we fake it till we become it, put things a lot in perspective. It’s motivated me to have more power and self-assurance of my own skills. How to carry myself with dignity, and become someone new.

There’s more room for growth now.

Recommended Readings/Videos

Can You be a Confident Introvert? - Harriet Griffey

What it Means to Be a Confident Introvert - Whitney Barkman

Your body language may shape who you are - Amy Cuddy (TED)

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